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  1. Margie
    December 30, 2012 @ 11:03 am

    I love your description of the dynamic tension of being a “helper”. I do respite care in Hospice. As a volunteer, each family I go into as a helper has it’s own chaotic dynamics (and end of life brings new tensions). I go through a ritual each time, before I get out of my car and put on my badge… in which I literally wash my hands (waterless cleaner), and by doing so, meditate to remove the “me” from the situation… Basically become a “Fair Witness” (as in Heinlein). I find I can do my job unencumbered by expectation, revulsion or judgement … Then upon leaving I take off my badge and wash my hands again, and meditate to lose whatever energies I have absorbed during my stay. Care givers are a unique breed of human.

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    • Danny van Leeuwen
      December 30, 2012 @ 12:06 pm

      Margie, I wonder how the family caregivers could do this? Maybe not possible, not episodic. It must help the helpers. No judgements. Ann says hi. Best New Year.

      Danny van Leeuwen
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